Why it's better to just say, I can't do it
I have noticed a ton of people tell me “Ok Cool, Let’s Do It” in one form or another, leading me to believe everything is cool and is going to happen as discussed. Great! Right?
Example. I talked to one guy when I was in desperate need of artwork. I had very little experience in making art at the time and was not good at it at all. Speaking with him gave me enough confidence that I announced that I was going to drop a project within a certain timeframe.
He explains to me how to share my ideas with him, when it will get done, even a date to meet up with him to talk in person about how things should look and to take photos if needed. Everything went well during this initial conversation.
However, as the meetup date approached he became more and more difficult to reach.
Meetup day arrives and he is now not answering his phone.
To sum up the example here, he basically made me believe he was up to the task. The only problem is, he failed to deliver without any reasonable explanation and simply just stopped communicating.
Now, this would have been the proper way to go about things. First, if you don't want to take on the task, don't agree to it. Second, if you come to a point where you actually intended to complete the task but can’t then simply explain why and offer an apology.
Simply not doing what’s expected without explaining is pretty messed up especially when people are depending on the task to be completed. This is the equivalent of getting stood up on a date, its like you probably won’t be scheduling another….
In most cases, offering an explanation and an apology will keep things open and there may even be another opportunity for you to work with whoever it is again in the future.
Ducking and dodging people, ignoring them, basically acting as if you never wanted to do it to begin with, will for sure piss them off…